Announcing that you love yourself is probably not on your priority list today. Or ever.
Having a great relationship with yourself is like a dirty little secret. It’s not the done thing to actually be happy being you, is it!?
Most of us would much rather bemoan ‘this little fat, wobbly bit’ or ‘that terrible personality trait’ than have anyone thinking we are ‘up’ ourselves (as the cool kids say).
But I don’t understand why
Here at Muffin top mummy, I have chosen June to be my confidence month.
I’m going to be writing a variety of posts throughout this month, all geared towards helping you improve your confidence. Whether it be confidence with your body, your mind or life in general, I’m a firm believer that we all have the right to say ‘fuck it’ and start enjoying just being ourselves.
I said ‘fuck it’ a long time ago. Well, I also probably said it yesterday too – but that was on a completely different subject.
I grew up with no confidence as the ‘ugly one’
I was a bit of a late bloomer (if you call it blooming!).
My friends (you know who you are) did not let me forget it. One even went as far as saying I looked like ‘the back end of a bus’. Nice.
I’m actually still best friends with these meanies. And do you know why? Because we were young and finding our way. Those comments are in the past and I can see through the nastiness and insecurity to who they really are at heart. I was easy pickings, so they picked.
But I’m not anymore.
I don’t care what anyone thinks of me. If you told me I looked like a moldy loaf of bread today I’d just laugh along with you. Because I probably do. But that’s OK. I have a fantastic husband, a gorgeous daughter, a life I love and so what you think I look like at this particular moment doesn’t bother me.
How did I learn to love myself?
I let go of giving any shits. I don’t give a toss what people think of me. I laugh with those who try to laugh at me.
It may seem like the hardest thing in the world (I know, I’ve been there) but to turn your gaze inwards and only value the one true opinion that matters is simple. Stop giving a toss.
We are all here for such a short time. I am of the firm belief that we should endeavor to laugh our way through. At yourself, with yourself, however you fancy. Taking anything too seriously is a waste of our valuable time.
Yes, I know terrible things happen. No, I’m not saying that I wouldn’t care if they happened to me. Of course this doesn’t apply to every and all situations. I’m aiming this at those who simply want to break free from the self-imposed negative cycle of feeling like we HAVE to criticise ourselves. That not doing so will somehow make us bad people.
Loving yourself does not make you a bad person. It makes you unstoppable.