How I learned to love myself – introducing my month of confidence

How I learned to love myself – introducing my month of confidence

Announcing that you love yourself is probably not on your priority list today. Or ever.

Having a great relationship with yourself is like a dirty little secret. It’s not the done thing to actually be happy being you, is it!?

Most of us would much rather bemoan ‘this little fat, wobbly bit’ or ‘that terrible personality trait’ than have anyone thinking we are ‘up’ ourselves (as the cool kids say).

Love Yourself Confidence Month

But I don’t understand why

Here at Muffin top mummy, I have chosen June to be my confidence month.

I’m going to be writing a variety of posts throughout this month, all geared towards helping you improve your confidence. Whether it be confidence with your body, your mind or life in general, I’m a firm believer that we all have the right to say ‘fuck it’ and start enjoying just being ourselves.

I said ‘fuck it’ a long time ago. Well, I also probably said it yesterday too – but that was on a completely different subject.

I grew up with no confidence as the ‘ugly one’

I was a bit of a late bloomer (if you call it blooming!).

My friends (you know who you are) did not let me forget it. One even went as far as saying I looked like ‘the back end of a bus’. Nice.

I’m actually still best friends with these meanies. And do you know why? Because we were young and finding our way. Those comments are in the past and I can see through the nastiness and insecurity to who they really are at heart. I was easy pickings, so they picked.

But I’m not anymore.

I don’t care what anyone thinks of me. If you told me I looked like a moldy loaf of bread today I’d just laugh along with you. Because I probably do. But that’s OK. I have a fantastic husband, a gorgeous daughter, a life I love and so what you think I look like at this particular moment doesn’t bother me.


How did I learn to love myself?

I let go of giving any shits. I don’t give a toss what people think of me. I laugh with those who try to laugh at me.

It may seem like the hardest thing in the world (I know, I’ve been there) but to turn your gaze inwards and only value the one true opinion that matters is simple. Stop giving a toss.

We are all here for such a short time. I am of the firm belief that we should endeavor to laugh our way through. At yourself, with yourself, however you fancy. Taking anything too seriously is a waste of our valuable time.

Yes, I know terrible things happen. No, I’m not saying that I wouldn’t care if they happened to me. Of course this doesn’t apply to every and all situations. I’m aiming this at those who simply want to break free from the self-imposed negative cycle of feeling like we HAVE to criticise ourselves. That not doing so will somehow make us bad people.

Loving yourself does not make you a bad person. It makes you unstoppable.

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  1. June 1, 2017 / 5:07 pm

    I agree that the first step to learning accept yourself is to stop giving a shit. I lost my give-a-shit years ago and it has been immensely helpful. 🙂

    • muffintopmummyblog
      June 1, 2017 / 8:45 pm

      Excellent news! I used to give a lot of shit – but losing it is so liberating!

  2. Lucy
    June 1, 2017 / 9:28 pm

    Love this post!! I really need to start loving myself xx

    • muffintopmummyblog
      June 1, 2017 / 9:39 pm

      Thank you – yes! I know it’s hard, but it’s so worth it 😊

  3. June 1, 2017 / 9:41 pm

    Great post! You should love yourself very much x

    • muffintopmummyblog
      June 1, 2017 / 9:43 pm

      Thank you lovely!

  4. June 1, 2017 / 10:08 pm

    Glad you are gaining in confidence- I think a lot of women struggle with this post-babies, thank you for sharing.

    • muffintopmummyblog
      June 1, 2017 / 11:23 pm

      It takes a while to get back to the right mindset I think – but I’m happy I’m there!

    • muffintopmummyblog
      June 3, 2017 / 10:45 am

      Thanks lovely!

  5. June 3, 2017 / 1:01 pm

    As a fellow late bloomer I love this post! I love you approach and can’t wait to read more this month! Thanks so much for sharing with #Blogstravaganza xx

    • muffintopmummyblog
      June 3, 2017 / 4:08 pm

      Thank you 😊 high five on the late blooming 😂🙌🏻

  6. June 4, 2017 / 12:17 pm

    I think having a little one definately helps you not give a shit what other people think. As if Atty is going to care if my belly wobbles or my boobies are wonky (cheers breastfeeding!). His opinion is the only one that matters in the whole world

    • muffintopmummyblog
      June 4, 2017 / 8:04 pm

      Yep 🙌🏻 couldn’t have said it better myself! (Not that you have wonky boobs, the only opinion matters bit 😂)

  7. June 6, 2017 / 10:18 am

    Love this post! And I’m sorry, whoever said YOU were like the back end of a bus??? You’re beautiful! Keep it coming girl, we all need positivity x

    • muffintopmummyblog
      June 6, 2017 / 11:25 am

      Awww thank you so much! You can be my new best friend 😍

  8. June 6, 2017 / 10:34 am

    Good luck on your journey. The only opinion that matters is your own. #dreamteam

    • muffintopmummyblog
      June 6, 2017 / 11:25 am

      Thank you Jeannette – couldn’t agree more 😊

  9. June 8, 2017 / 1:09 pm

    Love that last line! It’s so true and something I am learning as I get older. I still have a way to go and have my bad days where I’m constantly putting myself down, but on the whole I love myself way more now than I have since I was a kid. What a great idea to make this your focus for the month x

    • muffintopmummyblog
      June 8, 2017 / 5:25 pm

      Thank you Alana! I’m with you – some days I do start to slip, but then I remember that I’m the one who’s always preaching to everyone else haha! Which helps x

  10. June 11, 2017 / 9:46 pm

    Good on you for adopting such a positive attitude lovely – I am stunned by what you ‘friend’ said to you when you were younger. I think as you get older the not giving a shit part of it gets easier, but I still struggle with it at times! Thanks for linking up to #dreamteam

    • muffintopmummyblog
      June 11, 2017 / 9:58 pm

      Oh yes I agree – sometimes it’s not as easy as it sounds on paper (or computer screen), but it’s something to try and achieve 😊

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