So if you follow me on any form of social media, you’ll have seen recently that I’ve been a bit miffed.
My daughter loves her Daddy. The minute she sees him, her face lights up and she vibrates with excitement. In fact, she’s sometimes so excited that she actually cries. Yes, she worships that man.
Now of course, I’m happy that she loves her father. A daddy/daughter bond is so special and my heart fills with love when she does her ‘oh my god it’s daddy and I just adore him‘ dance.
But what about me?
I’m with the girl 24 hours a day, 7 days a week. We eat, sleep, breathe each other and I thought we had a bond beyond anything I’ve ever known.
So when I leave for a few hours to attend work appointments or run errands, I expect full-on fireworks when I return.
I walk in the door, all excited, arms wide open with a big ‘guess who’s back bitchezz’ grin. And she barely looks up. There isn’t even a hint of acknowledgement in her squishy little face. I could have been taking a 3 hour long poo in the next room for all she cares.
And that cuts deep.
I want the tears of joy. I want the buzzy excitedness. I’m not trying to raise a clingy baby, but come on, a bit of interest towards mummy wouldn’t go amiss!
It can’t just be me?
I decided to reach out to the lovely blogging community to find out if I’m alone in this blatant rejection. And thankfully, it seems to happen quite frequently.
Becky, from Mommy and Rory:
‘My little boy is the same! He’s 17 months. I’m at work all day, come home and he looks at me like I’ve shit in his bed! But when Daddy comes home he’s all about the kisses and cuddles!’
Ayse, from Arepops:
‘Daddy goes to work everyday and my little girl is still heart broken after 3 years of the same routine… I went away for the weekend for the first time and came home and she cried when she saw me (and not tears of joy)! I tried not to take it personally, she had just woken from a nap!’
Rosie, from Mum in the Midlands:
‘My daughter used to only be really excited to see daddy, but since I’ve been back at work, she’s the same with me! Absence makes the heart grow fonder.’
Sophie, from Life as Mrs D:
‘I think it’s a phase, my daughter (13 months) did this for a long time, but is now really clingy with me again. She is funny at the moment and gets really excited when she sees Daddy is home and runs over to him, but when he goes to pick her up she turns around and runs away from him, and starts crying if he does manage to pick her up!’
Emma, from Me and B make tea:
‘I travel for work and i get this too. It wasnt until my son hit around age 3 that he truly misses me and is delighted to see me come home. He literally jumped in to my arms last year when i was away. It was lush.’
Clare, from Mumsy midwife:
‘My little one shouts dada all the time. Me? She calls me lady. Fml.’
Laura, from Five Little Doves:
‘I have been away this week from and returned home yesterday at the same time as my husband returned from Tesco. As we both went into the house, having not seen the children for four days, I held out my arms to hug them and they ran straight by me and to DADDY who they had seen just an hour earlier!!!’
Jenna, from Then there were three:
‘My daughter is like this… she’s just turned 2 and my husband works away Monday to Friday – you can bet on a Friday evening as soon as she hears his bike pull up she will want nothing more to do with me until Monday! She literally will not come near me the whole weekend; she’s a real daddy’s little princess!’
So it really isn’t just me
OK ladies, you have officially calmed my fears (and given me some giggles in the process). I think I’m taking from this that it’s either just a phase, or she’s a Daddy’s girl.
Either way, I’ve got to pull my big girl knickers up and get on with loving the rascal anyway!
I’m sure she likes me really. Hopefully. Maybe.
Have you been through the same? I’d love to hear any stories and/or advice in the comments!